Since the first time a bra strap slipped down the bare shoulder of a woman or a flash of lace was spotted under layers of clothing, men have been obsessed with the idea of what women are wearing under their clothes. They have fantasized endlessly about their women showing up unannounced in sassy vixen getups or acting like the innocent girl next door in a baby doll negligee. It is quite possible the intrigue lies in the idea that it is something you are wearing for them and them alone, something that no one else will see. Or it could be the fact that it is like the wrapping on a present and they can’t wait to see what’s under it. Either way, if you ever want to drive your man crazy or just want to feel a little bit more va-va-voom, try playing with lingerie to spice up your sex life or your look.
Lace, much like the little black dress at a cocktail party, is a timeless classic. It is ultra-feminine, perfect for camouflaging problem areas and can be worn in various styles. From matching lace bra and panty sets to a full lace bodice that leaves all of the best parts slightly exposed, both options can tenderly tease your lover. In that same ageless category are the thigh-high garters or stockings. Pair them with bras and panties, a teddy or nothing at all if you are feeling brave, to create instant hotness and desirability.
If you are indeed feeling bold and daring, try a leather piece. Many designers right now are playing with different designs and peeka-boo cuts showing skin in all the right places. Don’t shy away from things like lace-up bodices, boots, gloves or corsets – it’s fun to make your guy work for the prize and it gives you a chance to channel your inner Xena, taking charge of your sexiness. There is just something about that feeling of leather that makes you feel like you can handle anything, anywhere, anytime. Plus, the time it takes to actually untie that corset or get out of those boots builds up the sexual tension.
If the whole dominatrix, leather and lace thing isn’t your vibe, and you are normally just a cotton underwear-wearing type, try boosting your collection with some bright and sassy colors like hot pink, lime green or zesty orange. You will catch his eye for sure and look good enough to eat. An investment in a good push up bra is always a nice enhancement as well. All of us ladies can use a good boost every now and again, so find a color that looks great on your skin-tone. This is an especially fun option if you two are traveling to a tropical destination or taking a weekend getaway.
Baby dolls are also a traditional, more conservative option. Many times women feel more at ease due to the looser fit and it offers more of a breezy, whimsical sexiness than some of the other more obvious choices. With a wide selection of patterns, textures, colors and mix and match options available, it is easy to find something that compliments your body and mood. Subtle, soft sex appeal is not lost on men and will definitely have them treating you like the angel you will appear to be. A woman’s wedding day is always the perfect occasion to wear lingerie. Some phenomenal bridal designers out there specialize in pieces specifically for this magical time.
Journelle and Claire Pettibone design couture and luxury lingerie, while others do custom designs to make sure your piece fits your body perfectly. Classic white or anything in pearl tones is always a beautiful choice. Whether you actually waited until the night of your wedding or not, it will be a symbolic and memorable experience for both of you that you will remember for the rest of your days of wedded bliss. He will also appreciate the extra effort.
In addition to romantic milestones such as your wedding day, your honey’s birthday, and of course, Valentine’s Day, don’t forget that sometimes the best things come as a surprise. Choose a random Tuesday night, show up at his doorstep in a super seductive get up, and you will not only make his night, but probably the rest of his month. Plus, it is a great way to give yourself a dose of confidence if you are feeling undesirable. No one can feel unattractive in a black lace bra, no one. If you have some money to burn, check out the designer boutique Faire Frou Frou, which in French means, “to show off”. Other good options include, Pleasuremants, specializing in erotic fantasies, British label Agent Provocateur, and Bordelle, seen in many fashion magazines and on many top celebs like Lady Gaga.
If you are in a hurry and just want to dash into your local mall, Victoria’s Secret has been a go-to for years, serving up sexy selections at reasonable prices. There is simply no excuse not to look and feel sexy in lingerie every day!
Published in the Fall 2014 Issue